Most people love the idea of being a ‘boss’. They want nothing more than to be ‘in charge’. They love being the top dog, the alpha, the one that runs the whole show. Unfortunately, most people want to rule over others. They have no idea how to lead others. This isn’t surprising. Leadership isn’t a subject that’s taught in school or a skill that’s actively encouraged.
“Every time you go down the rabbit hole,” she says. “You take me down with you. You take us all down with you. Must you destroy everything you create?”
I call her the Wanderer. She resides in every single one of us. She knows no fear for she has faith. She needs no possessions to feel safe. She enters the Wildwood with courage and curiosity. She loves life. She begins each day with a sense of adventure. She doesn’t need anyone to take the plunge with her – for this journey is hers and hers alone.
Most of us are actually seeking the meditative state. Have you ever been so utterly, completely involved in something that brought you great joy or a profound peace and when it was over, all your problems and pain shrank to manageable proportions? Maybe you feel it in a nice bubble bath or massage or while playing with children. That, in a nutshell, is what meditation does to you but without the extra props of scented water or a spa, or chocolate ice-cream.
You’ve worked hard for all you’ve achieved till now. But you’ve grown up. You wake up one morning and realise that you’re wearing a pair of shoes that are too small for you. You’re not giving up – you’re growing. And with that you realise that you’ve outgrown certain people, situations and circumstances.
Growing up, I noticed that boys tend to be more outspoken and loud in classes. This gender difference gets more prominent as people get older. As an adult, I have met a huge variety of women. I’ve also met a lot of women who are dissatisfied with their lives. Usually the reason for that is that they haven’t gone for what they wanted or have just settled with what society expects of them.
The quest usually begins with some big question, such as who am I? What is the meaning of life? What is good? Whereas many people just accept the readymade answers provided by the powers that be, spiritual seekers are not so easily satisfied.