The Chariot: choose your companions wisely (Part 2)

Adolescence. Speak to most parents and they’ll tell you that those are the tough years. Speak to most teenagers (past and present), and they’ll tell you the same. Now, imagine having to deal with close to 400 teenagers on a daily basis.

Yea… I know I write fantasy, but my real life hasn’t been lacking in any material. Working with teenagers can be rough… But it’s also incredibly rewarding and exciting. There’re plenty of memories I’d love to erase about my own teenage years, but I wouldn’t erase a single memory of working with them. It’s been one hell of an adventure. I can’t imagine working in an office and missing out on all this life experience.

The last time I spoke about the Chariot card, I talked about adolescence and how I believed that it’s a time when we’re (hopefully) learning how to establish a sense of self outside of mummy and daddy. C’mon, let’s face it. Kids are meant to outgrow their caregivers. Parents shouldn’t thwart their children’s attempts to make that successful transition from childhood to adulthood. 

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And a big part of succeeding at this transition is choosing to surround yourself with the right people. But who are the right people? They’re the ones with whom you can accomplish more together than you ever could on your own. They’re the ones who support you on your journey. They’re there for you and you’re there for them. They’re the ones who bring something to the table. They’re the ones who show up with an umbrella when the rain comes down. They’re not the ones who are around for the good times and magically disappear whenever there’s a problem. 

Making the right decisions about your circle doesn’t end with adolescence. It’s something we learn and relearn time and time again. Whether it’s your friends, colleagues, significant other or even your family – the people you surround yourself with have considerable influence on you in more ways than you realise. 

I’ve seen this pattern play out time and time again. Put five bright and promising kids together in the same group and they put their heads together and accomplish amazing things. Group one bright kid with four less capable kids and he/she spends way too much time and energy compensating for everyone else at great personal detriment. I wish it were different, but that’s just the way it is.

I’m beginning to believe that there are only two kinds of people in this world: the people who lift you up and the people who drag you down. Perhaps it sounds a little cold and black and white – but when it really comes down to it, that’s all there is to it. Yes – everyone has a reason for being the way they are. Maybe they had a bad childhood, a bad day, a bad haircut… but how many times are we going to make excuses for people who just don’t make the cut?

I’m a big believer in the importance of empathy. I really am. But when the gentle words of empathy fail, tough love is our next best option. And when that fails, I feel we are left with no choice but to cut people out of your life with the cool-headedness of the Suit of Swords. And anytime you find yourself second guessing yourself – remember, anything that does not raise you up, will inevitably drag you down. 

And that’s all folks. 

Author: Dipa

Tarot Tales from Japan

12 thoughts

  1. My sentiments exactly, what you wrote about working with teens. I’ve learned to cut negative people out of my life because empathy only goes so far. We all have our negative phases, where our interactions mirror our inner world, but sustaining that as a lifestyle where you want to drag other people down with you, I’ve never understood that. Living in a culture which thrives on complaints and negativity, and having roots in that culture, the only answer I have is that people use it as a talisman of sorts. The logic being, if I complain enough, the bad luck demons will leave me alone.

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    1. Yea, I think the teenage phase is a challenging one. It’s when we need to make a successful transition from childhood to adult life. Unfortunately, too many people never make that transition because of a wide variety of reasons…

      Having said that – I’m in the same boat as you. I hate hate hate complainers….

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      1. Never a dull moment, huh? Because we’re such great entertainers, and charmers. And oh so humble. Remind me what your sign was? I’ve got a Libra ascendant. Used to think it was Scorpio, so still getting used to it. 🙂

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      2. Oh, I’ve always had Pisces friends I felt really close to. By Gemini energy do you mean that relentless drive and enthusiasm? That charming way of drawing everyone in? That absolutely crazy way we have of switching between extremes? And the chronic foot-in-mouth disease we have? 🙂

        Never thought about it manifesting more in women. Now that you mention it, I’d say it manifests very strongly in the female soul and in teens. The men I know who are Gemini – and only three come to mind – only manifested those traits when they had female souls. But the one guy I knew who was a Gemini where I’m not sure if his soul was female or male (or if he even had one) was a jerk, and even though his birthday was the day before mine, I was always convinced he was lying.

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      3. Geminis are full of energy! That’s why I love them. The Pisces-Gemini duo is GREAT in friendships, but in relationships… I’m not sure… haha!

        Yea – I think Gemini is a tough sign for masculine energy…

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      4. Hmmh, never had a Pisces boyfriend. Pisces friends are pretty awesome though. I’m actually not all that convinced that a Gemini-Gemini combo would work in a relationship. Based on past experience that would be a clear and resounding no. But as friends, no objections there. The ones I’m really interested in is Gemini partnered with Cancer, Aries, and Scorpio (Sagittarius cusp, but apparently being more Scorpio) respectively.

        Do you mean dealing with it on a personal level, or also dealing with a Gemini partner, when it comes to the energy being tough? I’d go with both. I have found, though, that people either love or hate me. And I either love or hate them. For the most part I do love most people. But as a friend pointed out, “when you hate, you really hate.”

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      5. I know plenty of people who date their own star sign… I think it comes down to whether you want someone who understands you or someone who complements you…

        I haven’t known many Geminis to love/hate – in fact, I usually find their emotions don’t run all that deep – unlike Scorpios for instance. I’ll need to take a look at your birth chart!

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